Courtship

Purity

Wayne — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 09:43:58 -0400

Purity

The Lord made us to leave our parents and become one with our spouse. Because of
this special dedication, the Word tells us we should remain pure for our future
spouse. To this end, and in line with courtship, we
believe our child's first real kiss should be at her wedding, and all other physical
intimacy on her wedding night. What a special gift for her husband and vice versa!

Young girls especially are today filled with visions of romance, often awakened
emotionally far too early to morally act upon such desires. We encourage such desired
initimacy to be directed to the Lord. We will guide our daughter to "fall in love"
with her heavenly Father, showering Him with adoration and love. Diversions such as
"puppy love" can go nowhere but to frustration (or worse) and are discouraged. Instead
intimacy with the Lord is sought.

Courtship

Wayne — Wed, 06 Jun 2007 18:14:23 -0400

Courtship Principles

Courtship should wait until one is prepared for marriage.
I will not consider any person for courtship unless he or she meets the spritual standards (for him; for her) I have established together with my parents.
My parents must approve.
I will only court a person whom I find personally interesting and attractive.

Courtship Process

Casual friendship.

Make the acquaintance.
Become friends. No romantic thoughts, words, or deeds. It's about the other person, not you.

Deeper friendship.

Become good friends. It's still not about you, but about meeting the needs of the other person. No dating; and certainly no one-on-one outings. Invite each other into your daily lives: work, church, groups. Don't escape life artificially by dating. No romantic thoughts, words, or deeds.
Pray for each other.
Ready for courtship?

Are you both born-again followers of Jesus?
Are you each ready to consider marriage (see principles above)?
Have all your family and friends gotten to know your intended? Have they given their nod of approval?
Do you feel God's peace??

If the answers to all of the above are yes, then continue into courtship.

Courtship.

He asks her for permission to court her. He offers to be tested.
He asks her parents for permission to court their daughter. He offers to be tested by them.
He sets out to win her heart.
Deepen the relationship. Avoid tempting situations which would compromise your purity.
Double date with parents. Go out in groups, but coupling is okay. Time alone together is okay, if there's no sexual temptation present. Continue to avoid escaping life, but join each other's life.
Discuss hopes, dreams, plans, values, beliefs, feelings, philosophies.
Understand the differences between men and women.
Invest in each other: prayers, calls, letters, flowers, etc.
Avoid dating; it's about learning and communicating.
Pray for and with each other.

Engagement.

If both are confident about begin ready for marriage, he "pops" the question. This should be no surprise to either at this point.
Reserve passion for marriage.
Focus on each other's soul.
Pray with each other.

Marriage.

This is a lasting commitment for the rest of your lives.
Continue to learn about each other.
It's still about meeting the other's needs.
It's not 50/50. Each gives 100% to the other.
Stay within Biblical roles.
Pray together.

Good advice

Wayne — Tue, 07 Feb 2006 10:45:23 -0500

Vox says it well:

Follow the Constitution. Use a gold standard. Declare war before fighting it. Stay single if you're a young man who is not a Christian. Homeschool. Drink good red wine. Fight one-front wars, and one enemy at a time. Humble yourself before God and Jesus Christ. Learn the law. Think for yourself. Live free.

I'll add the following:

Buy, carry, and when appropriate, use firearms. Always learn and grow. Study the Word of God daily and obey Him. When ready to marry, court. Protect life, especially the unborn. Parent selflessly. Drink good red wine.

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