Love is not a feeling but action (1 John 3:18). To love someone is not merely to have good feelings about them or even to wish them well. True love (brotherly, romantic, or unconditional) is exhibited only by actions, often of self-sacrifice. To say "I love you," is a promise or reflection of selfless actions for the [Godly] benefit of the loved. Without the accompanying actions, the words are a lie. Do not be deceived by your feelings. Instead, choose to act in selfless concern for others, thereby demonstrating true love.